On Change: It’s Not Easy But It’s Good


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Here’s the truth: I’m not a huge fan of change.

I’ll start this out with a more innocuous example. Writing.

One thing I’ve learned about writing is that your writing style and persona changes as you grow and mature in writing skill and in your personal life.

Sometimes I cringe when I read an old blog post or story of mine and shake my head at how I used to write. I seriously learned a LOT about writing between the ages of fourteen and twenty-four or so–and it shows. (Fortunately for you, I won’t force you to see that for yourself. Just take my word for it.) Not that I’m anywhere near perfect now, but I do like to think I’ve improved at least some since then.

But then there are those other slightly rarer times when I look back and see some surprisingly quality, insightful content from my fourteen- or twenty-one-year-old self and I wonder, have I changed for the better? Or have I let myself stray off in a detrimental way? Have I lost a part of my style that was actually good and valuable? Should I go back to that previous style of writing and try to keep flowing in the same vein? Continue reading

Negativity: The Cancer of the Soul


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So, we’ve probably all known someone at some point in our lives that fits in the “negative” category among our acquaintances.

You know who I’m talking about…

…the one with the extraordinary gift of finding something bad in every single situation, the reverse-Pollyanna character, the “glass half-empty” type, the guy with a “woe-is-me” complex.

…the one always posting depressing social media statuses and depressing comments on everyone else’s posts.

…the one that comes into your vicinity and you can literally feel the positive energy being sucked out of the air before they even fully enter the room.

…the one that would probably have their picture superimposed over Eeyore’s in the Disney character index.

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Like and Follow A Writer’s Reflections on Facebook


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Hey everyone, just wanted to give a little update/announcement:

I’ve just created a fan page for A Writer’s Reflections on Facebook (I don’t know why I haven’t done this before now), so if you are a Facebook user and would like to support me on there, I would be thrilled if you clicked the link below and liked or followed my page. I will now be posting links to my newest blog articles to that page.

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Thanks so much!

You Can’t Change People Overnight, and That’s Okay


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It’s not easy being wrong.

I mean, it’s hard on the ego and forces us to admit that we don’t know everything.

But I think it might be even harder when other people think we’re wrong.

What’s worse: being wrong about a certain issue and admitting it to yourself and others, or believing that you’re right about the issue and being misunderstood, ignored, belittled, or falsely accused anyway? Continue reading

If you love me… | Reflections on Valentine’s Day


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Originally posted on February 14, 2016:




I read a statistic that said that this Valentine’s Day, more than 36 million heart-shaped boxes of chocolate will be sold. About $1.7 billion will be spent on candy, $1.1 billion on greeting cards; $2 billion on apparel; and $1.9 billion on flowers. The average consumer will spend about $147.

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One Simple Way to Potentially Transform Someone’s Day


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Merry Christmas! How’s your gift shopping going? I finished all of my immediate family Christmas shopping several weeks ago and I’m so proud of myself. I think that’s pretty good for a master procrastinator like me.

Moving on . . . would you like to know a simple way to help make someone’s day so much brighter and more positive? It’s simpler than you think and often overlooked.

If you don’t already know, I’ve been working as a library aide with my county library for the past year and a half. My job primarily involves covering the customer service desk, so I’ve seen quite a few unique and interesting people come through the library.

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Happy Thanksgetting! — I mean Thanksgiving


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This year Kohl’s holiday ad campaign is “Give Joy, Get Joy,” because you get Kohl’s cash for every gift you buy. It’s just one of many advertisements and commercials that promote the buying-crazy culture every Thanksgiving and Christmas season.

It’s not a bad thing to give and receive during this season of festivity and generosity, but if that’s our motivation for giving–to get something in return or to be lifted up as a paragon of magnanimity–then we have gotten something seriously wrong.

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Legalism vs. Love: The Heart of the Matter


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Happy fall, readers! I am so excited for autumn to be here and everything that comes with it. Pumpkin spice lattes, brilliant colors, cool crisp temperatures, warm sweaters and scarves. It’s gotta be my favorite season of all.

Meanwhile, I’m feeling really bad about my failure of late to post regularly on my blog, so I’m making up for it with a super long post that has actually been a long time in the draft box being written and rewritten.

This is a topic near to my heart in which I share some of my personal experiences and thoughts that comprised my journey from legalism to love. If you’ve been in a similar place spiritually, then you’ll probably relate to a lot of things in my post.

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The Art of Hanging Out with Yourself


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This week I had a few days off, so my sister and I decided to take this opportunity to go stay at a peaceful, secluded Airbnb in the mountains near where we live and just get some quality rest and relaxation.

This place is seriously an introvert’s paradise. It’s secluded (i.e. private!), but situated in a gated community near a small town, so not too far away from civilization; also, it is quiet. Like, really quiet. Did I mention quiet? Which needs no words of recommendation for the introvert. Plus, it’s beautiful. The living room window and back porch open out to an incredible view over a valley, with pines, oaks, and other greenery scattered around, and frequent wildlife activity. It’s amazing! Peaceful, quiet, relaxing. A much-needed retreat from the daily stress and obligations of life.

I love to be alone. I’ve probably mentioned this before, but I’ll say it again. I really enjoy being by myself. Other people might think I’m crazy for wanting to spend an entire day or weekend alone at home, but I thrive on solitude. I think it’s my natural state.

Being alone is so peaceful, relaxing, and non-stressful. You add other humans into the mix, and I start to feel my stress level rising, depending on the specific people involved.

But give me a day or two to just immerse myself in utter solitude, and I feel refreshed, revitalized, and filled with world-conquering confidence.

Maybe that’s not so surprising. After all, I am an introvert (my personality type is INTP, if you’re into that)–and if you consider yourself an introvert, you probably relate to me on some level.

But, whether you’re an introvert or not, there is something special about spending time away from the bustle and noises of the world, away from the constant demands and voices of people and parties, business and machinery. Continue reading


Are You Missing Out On An Adventure? — Come Awake


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Check out this great post from Come Awake (link below).

Even though our lives as Jesus followers can seem overwhelmingly mundane and ordinary at times, God designed us all to do great things for him! That doesn’t mean that every day will be a red letter day for God’s kingdom, but we also can’t lose sight of the big dreams and goals He has put in our hears. While you’re living your life, don’t get discouraged in the everyday things. Keep going, and as William Carey, missionary to India, said, “Expect great things from God; attempt great things for God.”

The other morning my husband and I were walking out to our cars to drive to work. The air was fresh and the sky was a little overcast. My husband looked over at me and said, “Today feels like a good day for an adventure.” And it did. Being the responsible adults that we are, […]

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