If you love me…


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Originally posted on February 14, 2016:


If you love me . . . | A Writer's Reflections

I read a statistic that said that this Valentine’s Day, more than 36 million heart-shaped boxes of chocolate will be sold. About $1.7 billion will be spent on candy, $1.1 billion on greeting cards; $2 billion on apparel; and $1.9 billion on flowers. The average consumer will spend about $147.

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One Simple Way to Potentially Transform Someone’s Day


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Merry Christmas! How’s your gift shopping going? I finished all of my immediate family Christmas shopping several weeks ago and I’m so proud of myself. I think that’s pretty good for a master procrastinator like me.

Moving on . . . would you like to know a simple way to help make someone’s day so much brighter and more positive? It’s simpler than you think and often overlooked.

If you don’t already know, I’ve been working as a library aide with my county library for the past year and a half. My job primarily involves covering the customer service desk, so I’ve seen quite a few unique and interesting people come through the library.

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Happy Thanksgetting! — I mean Thanksgiving


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This year Kohl’s holiday ad campaign is “Give Joy, Get Joy,” because you get Kohl’s cash for every gift you buy. It’s just one of many advertisements and commercials that promote the buying-crazy culture every Thanksgiving and Christmas season.

It’s not a bad thing to give and receive during this season of festivity and generosity, but if that’s our motivation for giving–to get something in return or to be lifted up as a paragon of magnanimity–then we have gotten something seriously wrong.

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Legalism vs. Love: The Heart of the Matter


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Happy fall, readers! I am so excited for autumn to be here and everything that comes with it. Pumpkin spice lattes, brilliant colors, cool crisp temperatures, warm sweaters and scarves. It’s gotta be my favorite season of all.

Meanwhile, I’m feeling really bad about my failure of late to post regularly on my blog, so I’m making up for it with a super long post that has actually been a long time in the draft box being written and rewritten.

This is a topic near to my heart in which I share some of my personal experiences and thoughts that comprised my journey from legalism to love. If you’ve been in a similar place spiritually, then you’ll probably relate to a lot of things in my post.

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The Art of Hanging Out with Yourself


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This week I had a few days off, so my sister and I decided to take this opportunity to go stay at a peaceful, secluded Airbnb in the mountains near where we live and just get some quality rest and relaxation.

This place is seriously an introvert’s paradise. It’s secluded (i.e. private!), but situated in a gated community near a small town, so not too far away from civilization; also, it is quiet. Like, really quiet. Did I mention quiet? Which needs no words of recommendation for the introvert. Plus, it’s beautiful. The living room window and back porch open out to an incredible view over a valley, with pines, oaks, and other greenery scattered around, and frequent wildlife activity. It’s amazing! Peaceful, quiet, relaxing. A much-needed retreat from the daily stress and obligations of life.

I love to be alone. I’ve probably mentioned this before, but I’ll say it again. I really enjoy being by myself. Other people might think I’m crazy for wanting to spend an entire day or weekend alone at home, but I thrive on solitude. I think it’s my natural state.

Being alone is so peaceful, relaxing, and non-stressful. You add other humans into the mix, and I start to feel my stress level rising, depending on the specific people involved.

But give me a day or two to just immerse myself in utter solitude, and I feel refreshed, revitalized, and filled with world-conquering confidence.

Maybe that’s not so surprising. After all, I am an introvert (my personality type is INTP, if you’re into that)–and if you consider yourself an introvert, you probably relate to me on some level.

But, whether you’re an introvert or not, there is something special about spending time away from the bustle and noises of the world, away from the constant demands and voices of people and parties, business and machinery. Continue reading


Are You Missing Out On An Adventure? — Come Awake


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Check out this great post from Come Awake (link below).

Even though our lives as Jesus followers can seem overwhelmingly mundane and ordinary at times, God designed us all to do great things for him! That doesn’t mean that every day will be a red letter day for God’s kingdom, but we also can’t lose sight of the big dreams and goals He has put in our hears. While you’re living your life, don’t get discouraged in the everyday things. Keep going, and as William Carey, missionary to India, said, “Expect great things from God; attempt great things for God.”

The other morning my husband and I were walking out to our cars to drive to work. The air was fresh and the sky was a little overcast. My husband looked over at me and said, “Today feels like a good day for an adventure.” And it did. Being the responsible adults that we are, […]

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21 More Signs That You Might Be a Booklover


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Recently while browsing some of my old posts I ran across this one–“21 Signs That You Might Be a Booklover.” I can’t help but laugh every time I read it because, no matter how strange they may seem, every single one of those signs are just so true. If you also identify as a bibliophile, then you know what I mean.

That was such a fun post to write and is also one of my most-viewed posts, so I thought I would publish a part 2 follow-up to my first post with 21 More Signs That You Might Be a Booklover.

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Quote of the Week | To Love and Be Loved


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Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage. ~ Lao Tzu

What would life be like without people to love and to love us back? I’m extremely blessed in that I have never gone a moment in my life without knowing that someone loves me. It’s experiencing a constant and unconditional love like this that fuels my response of loving them back in the same way.

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Happy Easter! From A Writer’s Reflections


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Happy Easter/Resurrection Day! Today was a full day of worship, fellowship with my family, friends, and church, lots of good food, and enjoying the blessings that God has given.

Unfortunately that also made me too busy to write my own post commemorating Easter Sunday, so instead I’m sharing this beautiful post below by Anna from her blog Ginger Tea & Sympathy.

Take some time to really think on and consider what happened on this day 2,000 years ago and what it means to you.

“The angel said to the women, “Do not be afraid, for I know that you are looking for Jesus, who was crucified. He is not here; he has risen, just as he said. Come and see the place where he lay.” (Matthew 28:5-6 NIV) The Holy Week is past and today we celebrate the resurrection […]

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Is Social Media Negatively Affecting Society and Your Personal Life?


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As in the days of knights and castles in which an experienced wielder’s sword was like an indispensable extended arm, we too, in the days of the pen being mightier than the sword, have come to have our own essential extended arm–the smart phone.

And contrary to what the label would suggest, smart phones are not used primarily for their phone apps.

You know the saying, “You can’t live with it, you can’t live without it”? I think the realm of social media is an apt use of that saying. Our grandparents and great-grandparents would probably never have guessed the massive influence that technology and specifically the cyberworld would have upon their descendants. And as with any great cultural phenomenon, this one also comes with both its blessings and curses.

From William A. on his site “PushUP24,” here is an eye-opening look at the world of social media and how it has wedged its way into our lives with unexpected consequences–and what we should do about it.

A couple of years ago, a friend matter-of-factly dismissed the research findings that led to my new book on the psychology of social networks, Facebuddha. She said “social media is here to stay.” Indeed, social media has attained such a ubiquitous, overwhelming presence and power in society that it seems unthinkable that we could ever […]

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